Advice confront him about dating relationship

15-Sep-2019 13:14

As usual, a few excuses passed through my mind: the other person was going through a rough time; I felt I should be there for them; they probably wouldn’t respond to how I was feeling anyway, so I should strive to be the “better person.” I let these excuses wear on for over a decade, until one day I realized I needed to make a change.

My younger 23-year-old brother, whom I dearly love and admire, is in a serious relationship with a great girl. When they’re together, I can see the tenderness in his eyes when he encourages her or the teasing affection when they verbally spar with each other. Which is why what I’m about to ask is troubling me so much.

Enter the situation with an open-heart, a desire to communicate clearly, and a willing to find a resolution, if possible. Focus on precisely what has happened that has upset you and explain your reasoning. If they are willing to engage you on it, be open to this. If they respond with anger or aggression, be gentle but firm in your position.

Remember, this is an opportunity to stand up for your truth.

she challenges him to be his best, isn’t demanding (no diva drama here) and is very polite and sincere around our parents. Though I haven’t personally sat down and discussed her relationship with God with her, my brother has told me that before they began dating (they’ve been friends for several years prior to dating each other), he asked her about what she believed, and it was in line with the gospel.

How do I confront my brother and his girlfriend about their physical relationship?

My younger 23-year-old brother, whom I dearly love and admire, is in a serious relationship with a great girl. When they’re together, I can see the tenderness in his eyes when he encourages her or the teasing affection when they verbally spar with each other. Which is why what I’m about to ask is troubling me so much.

Enter the situation with an open-heart, a desire to communicate clearly, and a willing to find a resolution, if possible. Focus on precisely what has happened that has upset you and explain your reasoning. If they are willing to engage you on it, be open to this. If they respond with anger or aggression, be gentle but firm in your position.

Remember, this is an opportunity to stand up for your truth.

she challenges him to be his best, isn’t demanding (no diva drama here) and is very polite and sincere around our parents. Though I haven’t personally sat down and discussed her relationship with God with her, my brother has told me that before they began dating (they’ve been friends for several years prior to dating each other), he asked her about what she believed, and it was in line with the gospel.

How do I confront my brother and his girlfriend about their physical relationship?

It breaks my heart that I even suspect my brother of crossing boundaries our parents had established years ago when we were teenagers.