Game theory of dating

02-Jul-2019 04:30

Not falling in love, therefore, looks pretty wise, which somehow seems counter-intuitive (like all the best Prisoner’s Dilemmas). Suppose you are a very good-looking girl and have to beat off suitors with a stick.It is likely that you will be even meaner than the average girl.If you are not such a good-looking girl, it’s a riskier strategy in that you might have a lot fewer suitors and they might not be prepared to go to all that trouble.Similarly, if you are a guy, you are at an initial disadvantage in that you are the one, in western society, who is supposed to be making the running, ie, increasing your vulnerability and risk of rejection by asking in the first place.Your strategy should thus be to increase your desirability with clothes, grooming and whatever accoutrements you can muster, and decrease your availability (“Sorry, I have to stay in to wash my hair”).This is, of course, the stuff of myth and fairy tale, wherein the Prince or suitor has to slay dragons, cut through thorns and perform countless other disagreeable tasks in order to win the Princess, whose only real obligation is to be beautiful.If you cave in that quickly, a lot of your mystery and perceived value evaporates and you risk being dumped.With greater value, you can aspire to better presents, more flowers, better meals and nicer weekends away.

It would be better to renege on a possible arms limitation treaty to ensure dominance as otherwise, another country might do it and you would be stuffed. In romantic relationships, it is essential for both parties to trust each other and expose their vulnerability if they are going to get to romantic bliss. If you show your vulnerability and your significant other doesn’t, then you risk getting very hurt.

Playing the mean strategy benefits you in many ways.

Firstly, it eliminates all but the most committed – the others will simply give up if you keep rebuffing them and making them feel inadequate. As we all know, anything you can get without effort or expense is barely worth having.

To get there, you have to eventually decide to be nice. After all, no one is perfect, you hold all the cards, so why not wait for the real Prince Charming? If you live in an urban environment, where you come into contact with many people and a lot of potential suitors, you’d be more likely to hold out for the jackpot.

Also, playing the mean strategy might become a force of habit.

It would be better to renege on a possible arms limitation treaty to ensure dominance as otherwise, another country might do it and you would be stuffed. In romantic relationships, it is essential for both parties to trust each other and expose their vulnerability if they are going to get to romantic bliss. If you show your vulnerability and your significant other doesn’t, then you risk getting very hurt.

Playing the mean strategy benefits you in many ways.

Firstly, it eliminates all but the most committed – the others will simply give up if you keep rebuffing them and making them feel inadequate. As we all know, anything you can get without effort or expense is barely worth having.

To get there, you have to eventually decide to be nice. After all, no one is perfect, you hold all the cards, so why not wait for the real Prince Charming? If you live in an urban environment, where you come into contact with many people and a lot of potential suitors, you’d be more likely to hold out for the jackpot.

Also, playing the mean strategy might become a force of habit.

Your best bet is to hold back on exposing your vulnerability, keep up some sort of guard and continue to be mean. It looks like what game theorists call a “dominant strategy”, the best outcome for you no matter what the other person does.