The problem with online dating

29-Jul-2019 06:29

We can get as righteous as we’d like about “getting to know somebody’s soul” or the purity of meeting people without our hangups about looks, but without that physical component, it’s impossible to guarantee that you’re going to be attracted to somebody in person.

All of this subconscious presentation and filtering is lost in online dating; all we have are our words and our photos, so we have to consider how to craft as attractive a snapshot of ourselves as possible.

To start with, you have to rethink the way that you present yourself.

Studies show that between 75% to 93% of communication is non-verbal.

I’m going to tell you something that you already know: dating is a frustrating process of trial and error.

For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much easier. In fact, for many people, online dating is such a trial that they give up early on.

All of this subconscious presentation and filtering is lost in online dating; all we have are our words and our photos, so we have to consider how to craft as attractive a snapshot of ourselves as possible.

To start with, you have to rethink the way that you present yourself.

Studies show that between 75% to 93% of communication is non-verbal.

I’m going to tell you something that you already know: dating is a frustrating process of trial and error.

For a lot of people, it’s a seemingly never-ending dance of missed connections, nights you’ll never get back again and wondering just what’s wrong with you and why everybody else seems to have it so much easier. In fact, for many people, online dating is such a trial that they give up early on.

OKCupid, for example, is structured more heavily towards casual dating and hooking up.